We have a sixteen year old son. We have chosen to be involved in his life. He can do what he wishes when he turns eighteen or after he moves out of the house. BUT, until then we are going to all up in his business. Sixteen years old is NOT grown up. Teens can make bad decisions and don’t always understand the consequences of their actions.
What I am fed up with are these parents who say with all sincerity: “We have chosen to let them live their own lives.” Or, “They have to learn to make their own decisions.” Really? I know parents that imposed rules upon their teens and then just turned a deaf ear when their teen breaks those rules. What? Yes, some rules may be modified if a teen has proven their trustworthyness. Yet, this trust should only extend in small amounts. Not out of trying to stifle your teen, but protect them.
When I was a teen, my mother made me give up a relationship I had built with someone with a horrible reputation. I protested and got angry, but I did what I was told. I look back and I know my mother did what she did to protect me. Now a days, parents won’t get in their kids business. I’ve seen parents justify inappropriate social media, inappropriate relationships, underage dating, relationships where the outsider does not respect the parents.
I believe that this lack of being up in your teens business is why so many have difficulties today. So, my advice to you parents is be all up in your kid’s business. They will look back and respect you for your actions today.